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What to do with scarcity
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You know that feeling when scarcity bubbles up?
Maybe it's financial, or about your energy levels.
Maybe it's about time, or love, or friends, or resources. It could even be something work-related like audience or clients or the amount you're doing.
The feeling of scarcity moves through the body obscuring clarity, tightening the muscles, getting the nervous system ready to take action.
It's like an invisible dragon that breathes down your neck.
You swing blindly in the dark, trying to connect.
Trying to beat it back.
You keep feeling its breath down your collar.
The natural reaction to this is to want to take action.
Immediately.
To DO something to solve the problem.
Action from this place is not clear action though.
It is action initiated by an invisible dragon, triggered by fear. It's rarely, rarely something that actually moves us forward, and is more often something that gives us the illusion of having done something useful.
When we launch into action from scarcity, it feels like the dragon takes a step back. It's still there, but its breath isn't tickling the hairs at the back of your neck anymore, so you can breathe again.
It happens so often that we start to assume that taking action is what gets the dragon to back off. That taking action is the right thing to do whenever the feeling happens.
(Action fixes everything. Right?)
Here's the thing.
That feeling in your body is not there because there isn't enough of something.
It's hard to comprehend at first, that the feeling of scarcity, and the reality of scarcity are separate, but understanding this is the key to changing it. The feeling of scarcity- of that invisible dragon breathing down your neck- is not happening because there isn't enough.
It isn't happening because you're not doing enough.
Doing something relieves the feeling momentarily, but the feeling doesn't go away forever.
Why? Because the feeling itself is something in our bodies- like a channel that we subscribe to that is shaped like a race track. Everyone lines up at the start-line and is allocated an invisible dragon to chase them. The buzzer sounds, and we all take off.
(What are we all running towards, someone breathlessly asks another runner.
I don't know, they reply, but to stop is to get caught and none of us want that.)
If you want to spend your life on a never-ending race track, then taking action immediately is the answer.
It's a track agreed upon by everyone else around us. We're all subject to it, we all assume it's how things are.
It's not.
The way off the racetrack is to do the scary thing:
Let the dragon catch you.
The dragon, you will find, is not a fearsome creature, but a bundle of information about the places you carry the story of 'not enough' in your body.
When you stop, you realise that it isn't chasing you to eat you, it is chasing you because it's a part of you and it's been left behind.
The illusion is that you can escape it through pushing.
The illusion is that if it catches up it will hurt you.
Next time the feeling bubbles up, gives you that shivering feeling at the back of your neck, activates your deep core muscles, tightens your diaphragm, gets you ready to run, try something:
Try not acting.
Try remaining still.
Try letting the dragon catch you.
Try seeing what it has to say.
Look past the lie of not-enough, past the fears that have no faces, past the ideas that immediately come of the things you can do to solve the 'problem', and let it unfold on its own.
What story is the feeling hiding?
What does your body have to say?
Where does this come from?
What happens if you drop it?
The way to escape the beast that chases you, chases all of us, is not to outrun it but to turn and befriend it. Invite it back in. Allow the scarcity to dissolve in your body so that you can see the world more clearly, and learn to take action from clarity, not fear.
Big hugs,
Rebecca
ps. I just did something spontaneous, and created 3 2 spots for a month of 1:1 magic.
One month, you and me, 3 phonecalls, What's app or Voxer in between chats.
Got something you want to work through and don't necessarily want a long-term container (we usually do 3, 6, 12 months together) but a 1-month space to work through it?
This is for something short-term specific: not 'I long to find my life's purpose' (which is usually a 3-6 month thing) but like, 'I'm having X issue' or 'I'm at Y crossroads' or 'I need to figure out this specific thing in my work'.
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