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I hate it when things don't go as planned
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UK people: please read my admin stuff at the bottom of this email- I’m going to be in London and Somerset for a couple of months and am going to be doign in-person sessions/ thinking about workshops. I recently had my heart ravaged. I’d flung myself in, open, trusting. “Too open. Too trusting,” I thought as I stomped my way up a hiking trail. “Never opening my heart to ANYONE again” I scowled out loud to the trees, the ravens, the rocks. I stomped and scowled and bad-mooded my way up the mountain, then got to the top and (privately) cried a tiny bit. It *hurt*. Then I sat there quietly looking out at the view. It always calms me, looking out from above. I’d cut off my connection to my Spirit Guides when it happened. Too hurt. Too angry. Too betrayed. But sitting up there, I softened a little and started to feel their presence again. So I let them have it: “What the FUCK?!?!?! I THOUGHT THAT FOLLOWING YOUR GUIDANCE WAS SUPPOSED TO MAKE THINGS EASIER. How could you let me get hurt like that?!” They sent me some soothing energy (as any of you who have had this happen in a session know, it’s such a good feeling!). It softened my anger a little. Then they said something that felt so profound, I’m going to try and share it here, for any of you going through a bit of a life-wobble. Things not working out as you’d hoped? Things scary and in an unknown place right now? Approaching something and terrified it’s not going to work? Here’s some guidance from spirit. Life-coaching from the great beyond: My question went something like this: “I had wanted X so badly and it didn’t work. Then I’d wanted Y to work out and it didn’t work. You’d said that these things were on my path so I assumed they were going to come to fruition. How can I tell the difference between something that’s on my life as a LESSON (*peh peh peh*) and something that’s on my path to be a more permanent thing?!” Here was their reply: The question to ask is, can you trust your own unfolding so deeply and intently that you KNOW that the things that do not come to fruition are stepping stones on the path, and the things that come to fruition are building blocks that feel like brief resting points along your path. The most important thing to know is that they are all equal in terms of importance. You must devote yourself to them all equally open-hearted. We cannot tell you which is which because you would not devote yourself to them equally. You must have the hope of completion or success in each of them in order to be fully present with the process of it unfolding. As you approach the unknown and devote your heart to it, think of it as a path with two possible perspectives for you to choose from as you walk it. Whichever one you choose will impact your experience, AND the outcome. On one side there is fear. This is the approach most people take towards things they want. A commitment that comes with a great amount of fear in the outcome not going as wanted. It is a slow path, a clunky path. One where there is as much resistance as growth. It is an un-enjoyable path where you spend a lot of time seeking relief from the fear and vulnerability of it. On the other side there is trust. Not trust in the outcome being as you wish, but trust in the ongoing process. You have a choice at any given moment, which approach to choose. It is a setting and outlook rooted in your nervous system. You have all the tools, and the ability to remain in trust, yet a lifetime and society conditioning of fear is what you are working against. We have another way to describe this: On one side there is Plenty, and approaching anything you do from this place is an open-hearted approach in which you KNOW in your being that you are guided, safe, held, okay. There is plenty. Feel the implications of this, in the ability to truly know, trust, exist within the inherent understanding of overflow. That it doesn’t matter whether a thing works out or not because it is the process of moving through life in a place of trust that matters, not the individual and specific outcomes. The general trajectory is up and this is what you trust. On the other side is Scarcity. You know what scarcity feels like - it is the pattern that most people in your society struggle with. Scarcity is a setting in the nervous system, just as plenty is. You get to choose which one you walk through life with as your outlook. With scarcity you will cling to every outcome because there is only one way that could work. With scarcity you will cling to control, because the fear itself is rooted in biological and psychological feelings of safety and survival. This is how you have been taught to move through life. It is not the only way. If you want to step deeper into plenty: Surrender outcome. Remain in the state of unfolding. Allowing. Enjoying. Delighting. Trust that the unknown can be a playing field in which you dance, hand in hand with the unfolding of the universe. Trust that the general trend is towards goodness. You cannot, do not, are not allowed, to see the bigger picture. The perspective of Plenty is the one that makes life everything you’ve ever dreamed it to be. It is Eden. It is abundance. It is heaven on earth. It is not, however, everything working out exactly as you want it to all the time. You don’t get to decide that part. Yet, to live within it, you still have to approach this life open-hearted, with full abandon. The difference is in the point of connection: that which brings you the feeling of wholeness. Is it rooted in outcome? If so, you will live your life experiencing scarcity of spirit-- needing things to turn out a certain way in order to feel as though your spirit is whole. Or is your point of connection to your heart, where all outcomes are of equal importance? There is only plenty here, where the connection to source can never be severed. This is the path of the heart and it is the most satisfying, and connected way to move through life. It will bring you to the most beautiful and aligned version of your life. There is nothing like this kind of courage. This kind of bravery. " It made me feel better. Kinda fixed my heartache, to be honest. I hope it helps you too. Big hugs, Rebecca ps. ADMIN STUFF:
This is going to be my last pop-up for a while (until December most likely, unless something changes in my plans for the year), so I’d recommend stocking up on everything you’ll want for a while. I’ll send out a preview on Tuesday. 2. I have some 1:1 spirit guide sessions available for the next few weeks. Click HERE to read about them and book in. 3. I’m taking on one long-term 1:1 client for the next 3 months. I think the best way for me to describe it is, when you read the email above, did it make you want to step into living that life? If so, hit reply. I’ll give you pricing and structure details. 4. Are you in London, or close to Somerset? I’m going to be in the UK for a while in August and September and want to see clients while there: would you be interested in in-person 1:1 Spirit Guide sessions? If so, please hit reply and tell me, so that I can start to make a plan and schedule! Also, do you know somewhere that would be a good fit for me to teach a workshop? :D |
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